If you show someone fun at a game, they'll remember it and come back.
That's what you need to do as well... don't get caught up in anyone else's game but your own.
A powerful lesson I learned over the past four years of being involved in cliques and niches of niches is that if I choose to not play "The Game", if I make deliberate choices to avoid the drama, tada, I avoid the drama and I can still get my message across. I did.
That's why I don't get involved in the "OSR" dramas and critiques and what-not. I play my elf-games, I paint and use my funny little figures and I talk about it. If someone gets upset that I don't ascribe to their "ONE TWUE WAY" of things, well... as my more coarse friends would say "fuck 'em".
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