Interesting; Gary said the same thing to Phil back in '74, and had Phil change the 'Stability/Change' thing to 'Good /Evil', as Gary didn't think that gamers would be able to understand the nuances of the former - too many shades of grey - and would be more comfortable with the simpler black and white divisions of the latter.
The kind of thing that you're describing - I haven't seen the particular post, sorry - where a higher person can bully a lower person is the kind of simplistic thing that people seem to like. The concept that a higher person would not do this, and take advantage of their social position, seems to be very difficult for gamers - American gamers, in particular - to grasp. It's the good guys vs. bad guys concept, and a very common stereotype that's easy to play and easy to comprehend. What I've found very interesting, over the decades I've been doing this, is that non-American gamers don't seem to have this issue; see the previous post, for example. I have also not had this issue in my own game groups, but then the gamers I normally play with have a different viewpoint then most. See also Gronan's comments on learning this in Phil's campaign.
As for your questions:
No. It was not 'noble action', and was considered rude and unsophisticated. People who did it, like player-characters in the Monday group, faced all sorts of social sanctions for doing it. We learned not to in short order, and did very well as a result.
Maybe a four or five; like the supposed use of languages, it didn't figure in play except where it was needed in the course of a particular game session. Once we'd learned the ropes, as it were, it was assumed that we were being polite.
No. In the culture, once people establish their friendship, they are normally more 'informal'. Same thing inside the family circle, as well. See also Chirine's relationship with Vrisa; he's a relative nobody, and she's royalty. In a normal social situation, they'd never really interact, but because they are friends they are very informal with each other. There's also the facet of their relationship that she's his hired mercenary, of course. Socially, she usually stayed in the mercenary role, and used her vastly higher social status when it helped the two of them out, like in the Nyemsel Isles.
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